Saturday, May 16, 2009

Sexist wedding traditions


Summer is almost here, which means...it's wedding season!!! "Here comes the bride, all dressed in white..." Weddings are full of traditions, most of which an American audience is familiar with. Even some of the most empowered women follow outdated and even sexist traditions in their weddings. Let's take a look at some, listed in no particular order. (And to anyone who may read this who is LGBT, I apologize-I realize that this particular posting is mainly geared towards heterosexual couples.)
1) The focus on the bride!! Why is the bride the sole focus of attention?Sure, she's about to make some vows and take a big life step. So is the groom! He's about to make those same vows and take that same leap. Why is he ignored?
2) The engagement ring. Why do only women wear it? Why shouldn't men? Oh, right. Because women who are "taken" must always show that they are.
3) The hand-off. When the minister says, "Who gives this woman to be married?" her father or other significant male in her life replies that he does. The mother doesn't give the bride away, only the father. Does the bride not make this choice to be married of her own free will? Why, then, is she being "given away" at all? The "giving away" symbolizes a transfer of ownership.
4) Guests standing as the bride walks down the aisle. I know, I know...standing is a sign of respect. Respect for what? Respect for the bride because now she's got a man to take care of her for the rest of her life? A woman should be respected for her accomplishments, not her landing of a man.
5)The bride taking the groom's last name. Again, an outdated symbol of a transfer of ownership.

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